He (she) was my friend, my beloved. Now it feels like we are best enemies.

There is not exactly a war between us, but there is not exactly peace either.

There he (she) is, always ready to shoot in every space we share: the living room, the table, the bed.

His (her) behaviour, and the way he (she) talks remind me every time how he (she) irritates me. He (she) doesn't seem to mind the things that drive me mad.

How can I tell him (her)?

Come inhabit our heart, Lord, so he (she) can understand.

And bring peace to mine, I cannot wait for a change. Show me my share of responsibility in this situation, what makes it hard for me to love my spouse.

For if I fight the bitterness that poisons my heart, will my love not be renewed and grow more strong?

We need to understand the expectations of one another to stay united in this marriage.

I need to change my outlook on him (her), that I may look at them with trust, and not wariness, with forgiveness and not suspicion, with faith and not despair.

Change our hearts, that we may taste the joy you promised.

Transform our hearts, that we may give space to one another.

Oh Lord, come bless my spouse.

Amen.”